Based in St. Louis, MO, The Millennial Dilemma is a blog by Megan VanWaus. Her posts explore how much it sucks to be a millennial through her unsolicited opinions of life and the reporting of other, much more accomplished journalists.

Adulting Is Hard. Whyyy?

Adulting Is Hard. Whyyy?

The Oxford dictionary defines adulting (yes, this term is now in the dictionary) as:

The practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially the accomplishment of mundane but necessary tasks.

I prefer Urban Dictionary’s definition though:

Adulting (v): to carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals (paying off that credit card debt, settling beef without blasting social media, etc). Exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time.

In other op-ed pieces by women in legit publications, who were likely being paid for their writing (that would be cool), you will find some strong hatred for the term and concept behind it. The word ‘adulting’ is gross. It’s also sexist. (Jessica Grose, Washington Post) and Kindly Shut the Hell Up About "Adulting" (Danielle Tullo, Cosmopolitan) essentially say, “Hey ladies (because apparently women use the term adulting more than dudes), quit whining about being a grown-up and talk about your actual accomplishments more, like your career or whatever.”

I respectfully disagree with this take. First of all, it’s just a hashtag. Sometimes you want to complain about something and you are fully aware of how whiny and stupid you are being so you call yourself out. “Shit, I have to go to the DMV today and renew my plates #adulting.” Sometimes you checked something off your to-do list that you usually would blow off and you want to tweet about it. Go for it!

Second, not everyone has accomplishments to talk about, or feels like they do anyway. Some people struggle with mundane tasks, actually a LOT of people.

(If this was a show, here’s where a little intro reel would play for the segment, we’re calling, “Here’s the Facts!”.)

  • Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) affects 6.8 million adults, or 3.1% of the U.S. population, yet only 43.2% are receiving treatment. Women are twice as likely to be affected as men. GAD often co-occurs with major depression.

  • Persistent depressive disorder, or PDD, (formerly called dysthymia) is a form of depression that usually continues for at least two years. Affects approximately 1.5 percent of the U.S. population age 18 and older in a given year. (about 3.3 million American adults). Only 61.7% of adults with MDD are receiving treatment. The average age of onset is 31 years old.

  • Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) affects 15 million adults, or 6.8% of the U.S. population. SAD is equally common among men and women and typically begins around age 13. According to a 2007 ADAA survey, 36% of people with social anxiety disorder report experiencing symptoms for 10 or more years before seeking help.

Source: Anxiety and Depression Association of America

Symptoms of all of the above and many other disorders, illnesses, conditions, etc. can include: low self-esteem, self-criticism or feeling incapable; sleeping too much or not enough; persistent worrying or anxiety about a number of areas that are out of proportion to the impact of the events; overthinking plans and solutions to all possible worst-case outcomes; fear of situations in which you may be judged; enduring a social situation with intense fear or anxiety.

Source: Mayo Clinic

If I were dealing with any of these (which, I actually do have PDD), then yeah I’d be telling everyone how proud I was of myself for going grocery shopping for the first time in months (<— actually happened)! Thus, being a functioning adult, aka, adulting. :)

What’s your take? Comment below!

Millennials: A History (or, WTF is a Millennial?)

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